Linda Westbrook, Author at UPower Presentations

30 Oct 2025

Gratitude in the Unexpected

When you choose to only focus on what you expected to achieve or what you wanted to occur, a mindset shift for gratitude helps you notice the learning and opportunities that can come from life’s detours.

When I was travelling to BC, I expected that my holiday would be stress free – a time to relax and have fun.

Then the detour happened…my purse with all my ID was stolen. I was sad, angry, disappointed and overwhelmed.

Awhile later my mum suggested I write 3 things I could be grateful for from this disheartening incident.

I was shocked. What could I possibly appreciate?

I decided to give it a try.

I took pen to paper and wrote:

1. The kindness and generosity of the people around me who wanted to replace the items in my purse.

2. My brother-in-law (a police officer) immediately started to find ways to get me new identification so I could board the plane home.

3. A fun shopping trip with my mum to replace my purse.

When I chose to focus on what I appreciated rather than what I expected, a mindset shift for gratitude made it easier to let go of the tough emotions I was experiencing, and I was able to bounce back much quicker than I normally would.

Next time your child is facing a challenging time or a tough emotion, ask them to write or tell you 3 things they are grateful for to help them bounce back to move forward.

This is what I know: A mindset shift for gratitude works – not only for kids but also adults!

Until next time…

15 Oct 2025

More Than Just Trophies

In my last newsletter, I wrote about celebrating small wins for adults – those little moments that make life feel lighter, more meaningful, and remind us we’re making progress.

I began to wonder how kids see wins in their own lives, so I asked my son about small wins. He looked at me and said, “I don’t know what you mean.”

I decided to try a different question: “What’s a big win?”

At first, he said, “Winning a hockey tournament.” Then, after a pause, he changed his answer: “Having fun.”

That made me realize – this is exactly why the benefits of play for kids are so important.

For kids, it’s freedom, curiosity, and connection. It’s laughter with friends, trying new skills, and discovering what excites them. It’s the courage to stumble, get back up, and try again without fear of failure. These moments help them manage their emotions and take a break from life’s pressures, giving them space to recharge.

When children are fully engaged in what they love, they experience the benefits of play for kids firsthand – building confidence, resilience, and a sense of belonging. Joy, curiosity, and playfulness shape their character, friendships, and how they see the world.

This is what I know: Next time you see kids laughing, playing, or absorbed in what they love, remember – these aren’t just playtime moments. They’re opportunities to learn, grow, and thrive. These are the big wins that don’t come with trophies.

Until next time…

1 Oct 2025

Power of Small Wins – Why You’re Winning Without Realizing It

You most likely notice the big wins, but are you seeing the small ones?

The big wins are easy to spot…finishing a challenging project, hitting a professional goal, or successfully navigating a tough situation. Exciting, yes. But it’s the small wins – the everyday choices to stay patient, focused, and calm under pressure that shapes who you are. This is the true power of small wins.

These choices contribute to your personal growth and build your resilience over time.

Try This: End your day by reflecting on one small win. It’s a simple step toward self-improvement and noticing everyday victories.

It could be something as simple as:

Taking a deep breath instead of reacting in frustration
Following through on a task even when motivation is low
Listening fully, even when you’re tired
Encouraging a child or student who’s struggling

Celebrating these small wins is about honouring your everyday efforts and noticing the moments that matter – a practice that strengthens your mindset and shows why mindset matters.

Sometimes a quiet acknowledgment to yourself, like ‘I handled that well,’ can be more powerful than any applause.

This is what I know: These small, often unnoticed moments may seem ordinary, but every effort, every patient response, every deliberate choice, all add up. That’s the power of small wins in action – helping you keep going and growing.

Until next time…

17 Sep 2025

Unlock Your Child’s Confidence in Seconds

A lot of kids tell me they’re nervous to read out loud or speak in front of their class. Many feel scared, anxious, or embarrassed. You might be wondering how to help your child build confidence in these moments. One student’s experience after my presentation is a perfect example of how small actions can make a big impact.

After the presentation, a young girl confided that she had to give a speech to her classmates next period – but didn’t feel confident enough to do it.

I shared a simple strategy: ‘Stand tall, shoulders back, head high.’

She promised to give it a try.

A little while later, she excitedly told me, “It worked! It made so much difference.”

That moment reminded me – the way we carry ourselves doesn’t just change how others see us. It also changes how we feel about ourselves.

Standing tall sends the brain a powerful message: ‘I’m ready. I can do this.’

It’s a small act that helps kids step into courage in moments that feel overwhelming

Here’s how you can help your child build confidence:

Pause & Focus – Before a test, game, or presentation, guide them to repeat the phrase: ‘Stand tall, shoulders back, head high.’
Boost Their Courage – Ask them to repeat the above phrase until it becomes their mindset.
Practice Together – Stand tall side by side and notice the energy shift together.

This is what I know: Confidence often begins with the impact of one simple choice — how we choose to stand.

Until next time…

4 Sep 2025

Why Kids Need Space after School?

It doesn’t matter if your child is usually a chatterbox or more reserved—sometimes, getting them to open up after school can be tough, at least for me. 😊

Your child arrives home, and you can’t wait to hear every detail. You ask, “How was your day?”

And you get… “Good.” (That’s my son’s go-to response)

Or maybe you get, “I don’t want to talk about it.”

Or nothing at all.

Sound familiar?

School days are long. They require a lot of emotional energy: paying attention, learning new things, navigating friendships, following rules, and being ‘on’ from start to finish.

It’s not about shutting you out — it’s that kids need space to unwind before they can talk. Instead of pressing for details right away, try giving them a calm, welcoming space. Offer a snack, suggest a quiet activity, or simply let them settle in.

When kids feel they have permission to decompress, they’re more likely to open up on their own. Sometimes the conversation comes minutes later, sometimes at bedtime, or even the next day — and that’s completely normal.

I know for my son bedtime is when he opens up – that’s when I get information I thought would happen as soon as he walked in the door.

This is what I know: Respecting that kids need space helps them feel supported and more willing to share when they’re ready.

Until next time…

26 Jun 2025

Why Cheering Matters: Kids Notice More Than You Think

This summer, the sidelines will be full.

From soccer fields to baseball diamonds, basketball courts to swim meets—everywhere you look, kids will be running, jumping, skating, throwing, kicking, dancing, and giving it their all.

And behind the action? Parents. Sitting. Standing. Watching.

Some fully present—clapping, smiling, cheering. Others half-scrolling, half-listening, missing the moments their kids will remember.

Here’s why cheering matters: our kids notice.

They see who’s paying attention. They hear who’s cheering. And when they do, they feel something powerful—supported, encouraged, seen, valued.

I asked my son and his friends if they like hearing people cheer. Their answer was a resounding: “YES.”

What they don’t want to hear are negative comments or criticism—shouting at referees, over-celebrating every move, or yelling about mistakes. It can leave them feeling discouraged or self-conscious, which takes away the fun.

This is what I know: When you cheer, you’re not just supporting a game—you’re supporting their growth, their confidence, and their joy. You’re supporting your connection to them. It’s a powerful reminder why cheering matters.

Until next time…

4 Jun 2025

Who Your Kids Hang Out with Matters

Kids don’t always realize that the people they spend time with influence their choices, behaviour, and how they’re perceived — by peers, adults, and even authority figures. Friends influence choices in ways that can affect a child’s confidence and sense of self.

That’s why it’s so important to have conversations about who they’re choosing to hang out with — and why it matters.

Here’s something I tell my son: “You don’t need to be the one making the poor choice to face the consequence of it. Just being there can make you guilty by association. That’s why it’s so important to choose friends who not only respect themselves and others, but also bring out the best in you.”

Some friends motivate us to grow, stretch, and become better. Others keep us stuck. It’s hard to learn that at a young age — but it’s a seed worth planting. Remember, friends influence choices, sometimes without us even realizing it.

Start by helping your child tune in to how they feel around certain friends.

Do they feel…Respected? Encouraged? Stressed? Pressured to make choices just to ‘fit in’?

It’s easy to get swept up in what others are saying or doing — even when it doesn’t feel right.

Here are a few questions you can ask to spark reflection:

How do you feel about yourself when you’re with this person?
If something went wrong, would they stand with you — or walk away?
Do you feel comfortable to sharing your real opinions?

This is what I know: You’re not choosing their friends — you’re helping them notice how those friendships make them feel. That kind of awareness helps them recognize how they’re being treated, speak up when something doesn’t feel right, and choose friends who make them feel valued, respected and safe.

Until next time…

28 May 2025

Kids: Talking Back or Speaking Up?

We say we want our kids to be resilient.
To have confidence.
To take a stand.

But what happens when they talk back, disagree or express frustration to us, our first reaction might be: “That’s disrespectful!”

What if it’s not talking back…what if it’s speaking up?

Since they’re still learning how to express themselves, their words won’t always come out the right way. They might speak louder or sharper than we’d like—not because they’re being disrespectful, but because they’re still figuring out how to speak in a way that gets heard.

If we want our kids to speak up with confidence and share what they feel, we can’t shut them down the moment it’s hard for us to hear.

What if we paused before reacting?
What if we asked ourselves: “Are they being rude… or are they trying to be real?”

Instead of seeing defiance, we see courage.
Instead of shutting it down, we see an opening—for connection, and maybe even conversation.

This is what I know: When we give kids space to speak up—without fear of being shut down—we’re helping them build the very skills we say we value: Confidence. Courage. Character.

Until next time…

15 May 2025

How to Help Kids through Anxiety

Help kids through anxiety- and remember – it doesn’t just affect kids— it shows up in all of us when life feels uncertain, overwhelming or just too much to handle.

The night before a school presentation, my son was feeling really anxious. He was quieter than usual and snapped at me over something small. Instead of going straight into fix-it mode, I sat beside him, put on my detective hat and asked, “Could it be that you’re worried about the presentation tomorrow?”

He nodded.

Then I followed up with, “Is there something you’re feeling uncertain about?”

That gave him the space to open up. He told me he was scared he’d forget what to say in front of the class—and that people might laugh at him.

Saying it out loud didn’t make his anxiety go away—it just made it feel a little less overwhelming.

That moment reminded me that when anxiety shows up, it’s not answers we need first—it’s connection. And sometimes, the right question makes that connection possible.

These two questions help when anxiety shows up for me or my son:
1. What do I fear I don’t have control of?
2. What am I feeling uncertain about?

This is what I know: These questions don’t fix everything. They do bring clarity when life feels overwhelming, messy or tough to manage. If you’re looking for a simple way to help kids through anxiety, try starting with a pause and the right question. It can make all the difference—for you, and for your kids.

Until next time…

1 May 2025

Confidence vs Self Worth: Know the Difference

It’s easy to confuse confidence and self-worth—but they’re not the same. Understanding the difference makes it easier to stand strong in who you are. Confidence changes, self worth never.

Confidence is about your abilities—how you feel about what you can do, your skills, and how prepared you are. It shifts and grows as you face new experiences and challenges.

Self-worth? That’s something deeper. It’s about how you value yourself as a person, regardless of what you do or how you feel at any given moment.

There was a time when I believed my worth depended on my achievements, the praise I received, and how many likes I got on social media. I’ve learned that when you define your value by outcomes, you give your power to things outside your control.

Confidence changes, self worth never. It’s constant—no matter the situation

This what I know: You won’t always perform the way you want—and that’s okay. You’re still worthy.

You’ll make mistakes along the way—and that’s part of it. You’re still worthy.

Until next time…