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Category: Resilience & Confidence

17 Sep 2026

Kids Afraid to Try

Your child is not going to excel at everything – and that’s okay.

Kids can think they need to be good at something before they’re willing to try. If they can’t be sure they’ll succeed, they may decide it’s better not to try at all.

I was reminded of this when my son had the opportunity to do track. He didn’t really want to do it. When I asked why, he told me he didn’t think he would be good at it  He was worried that if he didn’t do well, people would think less of him or make fun of him

He hadn’t even started, and he was already worried about the outcome.

This is where emotional resilience comes in. He could feel like he wasn’t going to be good at it. He could feel worried and nervous about what people might think. He could feel uncomfortable not knowing how it would turn out. None of those feelings meant he couldn’t still choose to try.

Kids afraid to try may be worried about failing, being judged or not being good enough. What matters is helping your kids understand that difficult emotions don’t have to decide what they do next.

This is what I know: Your kids don’t have to be the best. They may feel nervous that they won’t succeed. However, they can still focus on learning, trying and giving their best effort instead of worrying about getting it perfect.

Until next time…

17 Jun 2026

Courage Isn’t the Absence of Nervousness

After my presentation, I invited a Grade 3 student to come up and answer two questions.

He was nervous, but he raised his hand anyway and joined me.

Afterward, he shared something powerful. He said learned that it’s possible to feel nervous and still be brave and calm.

That moment stayed with me.

What he discovered is something many children – and adults – are still learning:

Being nervous doesn’t have to stop you.

What courage really looks like

We often think courage comes before stepping into something uncomfortable.

But it’s actually found in the moment you raise your hand, speak up, or try something new while your heart is racing and your stomach is full of butterflies.

That’s when you learn something powerful: courage isn’t the absence of nervousness. It’s feeling nervous and choosing to move forward anyway.

And when you do, everything changes.

This is what I know: Nervousness doesn’t get the final say. Just ask the student in grade 3.

Until next time…

13 May 2026

Are Your Kids Being Judged?

People will judge no matter what – so be you.

That’s an important message for kids. Because no matter how they are being, someone will have something to say:

  • That was wrong.
  • You should’ve done that differently.
  • Try harder.
  • Not good enough

Kids hear this constantly, and it shows up everywhere – in group chats, classrooms, sports teams, social media. It creates pressure to be someone they’re not. And depending on the moment, that pressure can show up as embarrassment, frustration, sadness, or anxiety.

When they don’t know what to do with those feelings, judgment can start to feel like it’s about who they are, not just what someone thinks.

That’s where resilience starts – not in avoiding judgment, but in how kids being judged respond to what it brings up inside them.

That shift matters.

Instead of believing what they hear, they can pause and think: “This is someone’s opinion. It doesn’t define me.”

From there, they can remind themselves:

  • I can handle someone disagreeing with me.
  • I know how to calm myself.
  • I am OK with not being understood.
  • I don’t have to change who I am to fit in everywhere.

This is what I know: The goal isn’t raising kids who never get judged. The goal is raising kids who believe in themselves regardless of judgments.

Until next time…